My husband and I after the birth

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Having a new baby in your life can disturb the balance between your marriage and family. It may seem that the baby needs all your energy, and there isn't much left for your spouse. But making your relationship with your spouse a priority doesn't mean you're neglecting your children. In fact, numerous studies have shown that children thrive in homes with happy and loving parents. A strong marriage is one of the best gifts you can give your child.

1- Embrace change:

- Even if you're pining for moonlit walks and candlelight dinners, it's time to accept that your relationship has changed. However, that doesn't mean your relationship has lost its spark. It has simply evolved.

-  Keep the lines of communication open. Ask your husband about his day at work or his Saturday golf game. Tell him about the interesting article you read in yesterday's newspaper. It is fine to talk about the kids on occasion, but it's important to have outside interests as well.

2- Make romance a priority:

- Balancing marriage and family requires making romance a priority.

- Marriage includes regular physical contact. But, physical contact doesn't necessarily mean sexual intercourse. Kissing and cuddling can do wonders for your relationship. If you're not quite ready for lovemaking, take a nap together while the baby naps.

3- Stop feeling guilty:

-You are not supposed to be a “superwoman” who is in charge of everything and spends every waking minute playing with the baby, cooking gourmet meals, and keeping the house spotlessly clean! This is just unrealistic. So stop putting extra pressure on yourself.

- To balance marriage and family, you must learn to stop feeling guilty.

4- Share responsibility:

- Nothing kills romance faster than feeling like you're the only one changing diapers or waking up for midnight feedings. If you believe you're doing more than your fair share of parenting, your resentment will eventually start to weaken your bond with your spouse.

- Your husband may simply not realize all that you have been doing. Try keeping track of your responsibilities for one week and ask your spouse to do the same. After comparing lists, discuss ways to distribute the workload more fairly.